TIP SHEET:

LISTENING LIFELINES FOR PARENTS OF TEENS     

Keep the lines of communication open with your teen.  Here are  seven critical steps no parent should be without.

1. Take a deep breath and be willing to hear them out.

2. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand where they’re coming from.

3. Use active listening:
         * Give them your fullest focus.
         * Listen deeply.
         * Don’t interrupt.
         * Paraphrase what was said.
         * Ask for clarification where needed.
         * Keep an open mind.

4. When they’re finished sharing, acknowledge what they said, then respectfully share what’s on your mind. 

5.  Avoid the biggest blocks to communication:
                  preaching, judging, and criticizing.

6. Let your care for them shine through no matter how difficult the discussion.

7. Remember that beyond all else, love and respect are the most powerful teachers.